“Everyone enjoys the game of ‘make and believe’ now and then. Of course the ways we play can vary greatly. Sometimes we tell ourselves that work won’t interfere with our family life, sometimes we imagine certain relationships to be more meaningful than they really are. Occasionally we put on a show as if to convince ourselves that our secrets aren’t really all that terrible. Yes, the game of make and believe is a simple one. You start by lying to yourself and if you can get to believe those lies… You win”
– Desperate Housewives
My mom is convinced that I have a girlfriend somewhere hidden in Europe. She thinks that it has to be a man’s passion for a woman and not his dedication to his employer that takes him 10 times a year to his ‘paradise’ with stoicism. I never tried to change her reasoning for obvious reasons. Needless to say she had always proven her wit in every such situation. She knew the day I had skipped school for my secret rendezvous with Ms. Stone in her ever controversial ‘Basic Instinct’. She smelt the evening when I missed my favorite TV series ‘X-files’ and went to bed early despite having prudently chosen odorless vodka. On her last visit, while we were enjoying a cup of tea she advised me not to hide my precious wine bottles at my office desk because it was ‘unethical’.
The next day as I was carefully replacing them back to where they belonged, she said “Do you know why I never objected to all your mischief and addictions? That’s because you never tried hard to conceal them from me.”
“A man can lie to his mom, his father, his manager and even friends but not himself”. Click here..
the last para is beautifully insightful… indeed once we accept our own flaws, we needn’t worry about the judgement of others
Nipun,
Yes you are right. I also believe that first we need to accept ourselves before expecting the same from others.